While all parents want the best of their children, there are times where our actions are actually having the opposite of the impact we intend it to have.
Parenting is no easy task. All parents have a plan for their children, even if it is subconscious. At the end of the day, the goal is to provide our kids with the best chance to create the best life possible for themselves. Unfortunately, there are many actions that are often taken with good intentions in parenting yet ultimately have a negative impact. It is important to detect these and adjust to them. Here is a list of some of these common mistakes.
Inhibiting Your Child’s Independence
Your child becoming more independent is a positive development, as it shows they are maturing in front of your eyes. However, a natural urge to pull back and worry about this independent nature is also understandable. Generally speaking, fight this urge, and instead see your child’s independence as a result from the hard work you have already put in as a parent of your kids.
Having Actions and Words Not Line Up
When thinking of ways to discipline your child, it is common to think that the strongest threats will have the greatest impact. I am not here to say the extent to which you should discipline your kids, as it is dependent on many factors. However, you should always make sure that your threats are met with the exact action. Otherwise, your child will soon realize that you are not serious about your words and will not respect you. If your threats are too serious to cash, consider finding discipline that you actually feel comfortable carrying out.
Ignoring Your Child’s Milestones
When your child does good things, it is important to make sure that you are not only letting them know it was good, but letting them know why it is good. In a sense, having your kids have an understanding of their own development is necessary, as it will teach them to correct their behavior as well as what they can expect from good behavior. Your praise will only push them to try and be even better in the future.
